Attitude is Everything!

By Francie Baltazar-Schwartz

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate.  He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say.  When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant.  The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time.  How do you do it?"

 Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.'  I choose to be in a good mood.  Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it.  I choose to learn from it.  Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life.  I choose the positive side of life."

"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested.

"Yes it is," Jerry said.  "Life is all about choices.  When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice.  You choose how you react to situations.  You choose how people will affect your mood.  You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood.  The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."
 

Click here to Complete

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business.  We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.  Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers.  While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination.  The robbers panicked and shot him.

Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.  After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident.  When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"  I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.  "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.

"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man. " I knew I needed to take action."

"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry.  "She asked if I was allergic to anything.  'Yes,' I replied.  The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply... I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Bullets!'   Over their laughter, I told them, 'I am choosing to live.  Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."

 Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude.

I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

Attitude, after all, is everything.

Want to witness the positive side of my life? Try at your own risk....

For some of my previous posts, I have come to be known as a true delicate and emotional guy, full of negative thoughts, among my close friend(s). Just for that sake, I am coming up with this current post.

OK. So, when do the clouds of any negative thoughts hover upon us? When does a person feel totally detached from life? When does there comes a point in life when the person finds no particular reason to live? What causes a person to commit suicide? Why does a person believe that nothing in the world belongs to him or her? Why it gets so difficult to just pass the time? Why does life seems as just GOING ON?

Enough. I believe there is a single answer to all of the above questions. But what it actually is, is actually very hard to find.

You know that something is missing for sure, but are still unaware of that Something, what is it?

I guess it to be one's own confidence level towards life. Yes, it makes sense. Just a simple concept but yet so difficult.

Sometimes, some such kind of things happen that just kill your self confidence. These can be related to anything- your family, surrounding environment, you yourself, your colleagues, working atmosphere, colour of your bed sheet or maybe the clothes that you wear.

This is what I could collect upon thinking a lot. I may even be wrong but I know that you are always there to correct me up.

I would like to mention a good Sidhuism over here:

Click here to Complete

"Aadarsh purush wahi hota hai jo khud ko paristhitiyon ke anusar dhaal le ya phir paristhitiyon ko hi apne anukool bana le".
That's all what is in my hands, i.e. to improve. Now, lets see how much my surroundings favour me.

Mind it-- the person never changes his personality at will but definitely develops upon it once he or she comes to know about the shortcomings. The whole credit goes to the one pointing the mistakes.
Moreover, that person is the best one who can be the most useful in building the confidence and hence improving upon yourself. Benefit from him or her before its too late.

One more thing, positivity comes as a bye product of your self-confidence. Nothing so exceptional about it.

"How can you expect a treat from a dying fellow?"

A Lesson from the Sri Sai SatCharita

"The devotees have to trim their heart-lamp of faith and devotion, and burn in it wicks of love, and when this is done, the flame of knowledge (self-realization) will be lit up and shine brighter. Mere knowledge without love is dry; nobody wants such knowledge. Without love there is no contentment; so we should have unbroken and unbounded love. How can we praise love? Everything is insignificant before it. Without love our reading, hearing and the study are of no avail. In the wake of love follow devotion, dispassion, peace and liberation with all their treasures. We do not get love for anything unless we feel earnestly about it. So where there is real yearning and feeling, God manifests Himself. It includes love and is the means of liberation."

---------------
Sai Baba

Now this is what I call as COMMITTMENT

A reason..........

Ye dil bhi kaisi ajeeb cheez banayi hai Bhagwan,
Jahan sab--hath,pair,kidney,liver insaan ke bas mein diye hain,
To yeh muthi bhar dil ka control use kyun nahin diya ?

Chahe ise jitna marji pakad ke rakho,
Par kambakhat apni harkaton se baaz nahin aata.
Jab bhi kisi par aa jaye,
Jeena mushkil kar deta hai.

Pehle to insaan sote samay hi sapne dekha karta hai,
Par ye dil jab kisi par aa jaye,
To neend to door ki baat,
Aankh khulte hi na jaane kaise-kaise sapne dikhata rehta hai.

Acha bhala aadmi khud ko ullu & chowkidar ki category mein add kar deta hai, jise aashiq kehte hain, aur raat bhar so nahi paata.

Insaan ko kya se kya bana deta hai ye dil,
Wo khud bhi samajh nahi paata.

Agar kandhe par apne chahne walon ka haath ho to usse zada confidence ki feeling kahin ho hi nahi sakti.

Apni field mein best perform karne ka reason,
Ache kapde pehan kar acha dikhne ka reason,
Apne aap ko physically fit rakhne ka reason,
Apne aap mein hi khoye rehne ka reason,
Akele mein haste rehne ka reason,
Kisi aur se baat na karne ka reason,
Har chahne wale se khul ke milne ka reason,
Har pal khush rehne ka reason,
Veeran raston pe akele chalte rehne ka reason,
Exams na hone par bhi raat ko neend na aane ka reason,
Jo aaj tak kabhi na kiya ho wo sab karne ka reason,
Dil ki baaton ko lafzon pe laane ka reason,
Fazool mein blog likhte rehne ka reason,
Aur bhi na jaane kya kuch,
Sab dil hi to provide karta hai.

Click here to Complete

Par dukh ki baat to ye hai ki ye sab sirf tabhi acha lagta hai jab tak do chahne wale ek saath hon.

Sabse zada dukh to tab hota hai jab ye sab one-sided love ka consequence ho.

Khushi ke palon mein to hum sab bhool jaate hain magar yahi dil hai jo hamein:
Bewajah rulata hai,
Har pal satata hai,
Kisi layak nahi chodta.

In short, agar ye dil zindgi jeene ka maksad ban jata hai to baad mein zindgi se door bhag jaane ka reason bhi yahi dil ban sakta hai.

Sabhi dil ka wyapar karne walon se meri ye khaas guzarish hai-----
Please kisi ki bhi chahat ko thes na pahunchana aur itna bhi dhyan zarur rakhna ki kisi aur ki bewafai se khud ko zada thes na pahunche.

Kisi ko itna mat chaho ki uski chahat tumhari majburi ban jaaye,
Chaho to itna chaho ki tumhara pyar uski zarurat ban jaaye.

Aur ab dono haath jodkar, sar ko jhukakar, main apne Uparwale se yahi winti karna chahta hu:
Hey Bhagwaan, agar koi kisi ko sache dil se chahe to please use kabhi bhi gam mein rone na dena, use shakti dena ki wo apne pyar mein safal ho sake, uski help karna, please........